Site Home Win A 90 Day Fiance Your 90 Day Fiance Links Surviving The 90 Fiance Process
You are not logged in, but you may still view these forums with limited features.
Upcoming Events

Upcoming FREE Dating Seminars

To Be Determined

 

Printable Version | Send to Friend
Subscribe | Add to Favorites
Author: dmoonchild Subject: Divorce after 9 years
1198freak
Newbie


Posts: 1
Registered: 08-18-2011
Location:

posted on 08-25-2011 at 17:11 Reply With Quote Report Post to Moderator
Divorce after 9 years

My wife of 9 years wants a divorce. We have one daughter who is 8 years old. We have had issues in the marriage before and she has talked about moving out, but she always backed off at the last second. This time she really did it, she got an apartment for herself and is in the process of setting up gas and electricity service, getting our child in a new school, etc... She wants to stay friends with me for our daughter's sake, but also she says she still does care about me very much and doesn't want to hurt me. She says she wants me involved in her life and says maybe in the future she can see us getting involved again, not to be married but as a girlfriend/boyfriend type of thing. This is all confusing and I really do not know what to think about all this... Anyone been through anything like this?
View User's Profile E-Mail User View All Replies By 1198freak (only searches replies by default, for topics please run another search) U2U Member
Sickofit
Newbie


Posts: 2
Registered: 09-26-2011
Location:

posted on 09-26-2011 at 20:18 Reply With Quote Report Post to Moderator
Moving

I actually moved for a week then felt sorry for her so moved back. But sounds like her mind is made up and dropping you slowly. That's what I would have done. Told her that we can date and such later but I knew that wouldn't work we would drift apart. Id say give it a month if she's still not working together, move on. Apt lease is a year right?
View User's Profile E-Mail User View All Replies By Sickofit (only searches replies by default, for topics please run another search) U2U Member
FinanceGuy
Newbie


Posts: 4
Registered: 09-30-2011
Location:

posted on 09-30-2011 at 15:23 Reply With Quote Report Post to Moderator
Why?

There has to be a reason why she wants a divorce. People do grow apart so the reason doesn't always have to be a negative one. Knowing why she wants a divorce - the real reason not just whats easy to say - will help you make up your mind. If this is something that BOTH of you will commit to working on ad fixing then maybe the marriage can work. If not you're probably better off appart.

Whether you stay together or get divorced always remember the kids come before you and before your wife/ex wife. She needs to realize this as well. EVERYTHING that is communicated to the kids, said in front of the kids, or that the kids might hear needs to be positive about the other person regardless of how each of you feel.

View User's Profile E-Mail User View All Replies By FinanceGuy (only searches replies by default, for topics please run another search) U2U Member
dmoonchild
Newbie


Posts: 1
Registered: 10-25-2011
Location:

posted on 10-25-2011 at 17:01 Reply With Quote Report Post to Moderator
i want to move out

My husband and I have also been married for 9 yrs we have 2 young children 6 & 5. I blew my stack tonight. I wrote him a sexy note and he screamed at me "how dare you do that in front of the kids they can read now". He has become such a bore, he comes home from work, sits on hit chair ans waits for dinner. We have had multiple arguments about him not helping . I am disabled, and right now, my mother is dying in the hospital, he is blaming my attitude on that. I want out I hate him I never want to be with him again, He makes me sick.
View User's Profile E-Mail User View All Replies By dmoonchild (only searches replies by default, for topics please run another search) U2U Member
Printable Version | Send to Friend
Subscribe | Add to Favorites

90 day Fiance reserves the right to block, delete, or edit any and all posts. The Moderator has sole discretion on the content of this site. Anyone who posts accepts these terms, and waives any and all rights to bring any legal action against 90 day Fiance. If you disapprove of any of the above, do not use, read, or post in 90 day Fiance
Home  |  Win A 90 Day Fiance  |   Forum  |   Your 90 Day Fiance  |   Links  |   Surviving The 90 Day Fiance Process




#524