admin3
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posted on 04-21-2020 at 06:01 |
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Does Dating Heal Breakups?
More than a few posts here reflect the opinion that goes something like this: if you get thrown off the horse, you have to get back up again.
Is getting back into dating a good strategy of coping with a breakup or divorce? And is it the same answer for women as for men?
Love to hear your thoughts and stories. Post them here.
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codybiltmore
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posted on 04-21-2020 at 06:18 |
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Maybe dating can SAVE a marriage
I sometimes wonder if I'd secretly taken one of those introduction or romance tours in Ukraine or Asia BEFORE I got divorced, might my marriage have survived? I was generally not a happy person to be around at the end of it. Looking back, I wish I could have done better, maybe a secret fling overseas might have saved things.
I'll never know.
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Aleesha
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posted on 04-21-2020 at 07:03 |
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Cheating Husband Cheated Wife
codybiltmore I think cheating is wrong and going on a romance tour without telling your wife would be wrong. Cheating is not love. Women feel that. Women feel when youre honest or cheating.
Now you can go to introduction tours or romance tours or whatever they are and not have to worry. Your ex wife doesnt have to put up with your dishonesty anymore. You cant find love by going on some romance tour. Even if you did, the woman who wants to be with you would only get cheated. You would break your new womens heart.
Men like you make other men look bad.
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codybiltmore
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posted on 04-21-2020 at 08:11 |
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Didn't cheat on my wife
Did you even read my post, Aleesha? I didn't cheat on my ex-wife. DID YOU READ IT?
Toward the end of my marriage I was miserable and so was my wife. How dare you toss out your condescending attitude like that without even reading my post correctly. I should ask my ex-wife about this: would it have been better for both of us if I'd gone on an introduction tour and come back with a better attitude. She might very well say yes, that would have been much better than misery.
I understand that you are young, Aleesha, and probably have a naive perspective on your young life. You don't know what introduction tours and romance tours truly are. Men who attend them dance and laugh with beautiful women. Nothing sexual has to happen. I believe a tour would have changed my attitude completely. Probably, I would have been inspired to grab my wife, take her abroad, and danced and laughed with her. I wish I had.
If I might express my opinion, you shouldn't be so quick to judge. The quicker you judge, the faster you show your own failings.
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Aleesha
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posted on 04-21-2020 at 09:01 |
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You Are In Denial
codybiltmore you are in denial. The reason men go to singles tours is sexual. If you went to one, it would be to cheat. Cheating is a lie. Your vows broken to your wife. Nuff said.
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issacc1965
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posted on 04-21-2020 at 09:53 |
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Coping with divorce and Aleesha
The man didn't say he cheated. He didn't go on a singles tour, only stated that he wanted to go on a singles tour. Hell, I want to go on a singles tour. You have a great time on singles tours. You bond with the other men in attendance.
It is probably not correct to paint him as anything but sorry for his failed marriage. You are coming off a little agressive over something that didn't even happen.
A singles tour to Ukraine is sounding good right now.
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drmeadowsny
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posted on 04-28-2020 at 00:14 |
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50 Years Married - Never Cheated
I am fortunate to have been married for over 50 years to the same beautiful woman whom I lost to cancer sixteen months ago. I never considered cheating on her, not through Vietnam, medical school, practice, or any other difficulty or time. Not once. Neither did she.
Marriage is a deep-level trust, and it must be nurtured and protected. Breaking that trust is catastrophic in its destructive effects on love and intimacy. Even if a broken vow is discovered and ultimately forgiven, the marriage is never quite the same nor can it be. It is scarred like a wound that heals but never disappears.
Cheating is by its nature a lie, first to the one doing it, and then to all that he or she loves.
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cornhuskers1970
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posted on 04-28-2020 at 01:41 |
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not about cheating
don't know why cheating came up in this post. its dating, not cheating. maybe yall got cheating on the mind with this but its about dating after a breakup whats being talked about here.yall got a mental masterbatsion thing going on with all the cheat talk. got a divorce without cheating but dating a plump little thing from lincoln got me stopping thinking of the ex. forgot about her in five minutes of good head and titty sucking. she never gave head worth a damn all the years we were married made me feel like I was asking for something dirty and below her trailer park background. later I found she used to take it up the ass from a black fella when we were in high school but never wanted that with me. sex got to be a lot of nothing boring and no love or passion. after the divorce she became a lesbian with a black chick over in Hastings. they want to adopt a child and raise it lesbian style. but my little titty girl in lincoln makes it all ok.
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admin3
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posted on 04-28-2020 at 01:53 |
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Topic Is About Dating Healing a Breakup
Stay on topic, please.
The topic is: Does dating heal a breakup? The subject refers to relationships that have ended. After the fact of a breakup, does dating again help to heal those wounds?
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ronharpersrealty
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posted on 05-18-2020 at 07:49 |
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I lost my wife and nearly my life
At one time I believed in my marriage and wife. But both are gone now. I won't go into details about that two-faced heart breaker because my love was pure. Still is. She wasn't.
And so here I find myself looking back at betrayal, wondering what more I could do then to protect the marriage. For some reason I always blame myself for what happened, although the truth is that I worked too hard, too often, too long, but those aren't good enough excuses for the woman to do what she did. I did everything possible to provide for her and our children, and she did everything to cut ties with it all. Her choice, not mine.
After the divorce, I didn't see anyone. No dating. I guess I didn't believe I was worthy of another relationship. And that is the most important part of what I want to express. I, alone, with no one, didn't believe in my own love of people or self.
Then I met a beautiful lady at a bar. We talked, and I started to come back to life. My point is, sometimes the best medicine for pain is talking, being a person, seeing yourself reflected back from someone else's smiling face. That was the night my wife's betrayal started to die. It grew quieter in my mind as I sat at the bar room table enjoying another person.
Dating doesn't have to be the end-all to your problems. Going out with a decent woman doesn't mean marriage or life-long happiness. Sometimes it is just good medicine.
Does dating help to heal breakups, yes it does.
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friely49
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posted on 06-12-2020 at 13:39 |
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Sex heals every malady
The only thing sex doesn't heal is exhaustion. Otherwise, every problem is fair game.
Of course seeing new women heals the old heartaches. It doesn't take much brain power to understand. Replace the old, embrace the new.
I was born to a generation when men didn't complain about lost love or heartbreak. We went out and got laid. That fixed things right and good. Now men go on talk shows and strip their problems naked for the world to see.
This subject makes me crazy. I think I'll go bang my cleaning lady to feel better. See how that works?
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